My Own Kind of Mr. Right

In a relationship, surely we always search for the one, a partner that will accompany us throughout this bumpy and messy journey called life. I am indeed a very helpless romantic girl, a girl who believes in happily ever after, and has faith in the bells will ring when the one is finally arrive.

For almost 27 years of life, I have spent lots of relationship and it came along with a lot of heartbreaks too. 

More often than not, even when i feel “head over heels” for someone, the question tickles — “Is he The One?”

Through those relationships (and heartbreaks) I learned to distinguish what’s truly matter and what’s not, I learned to see my own value, and I finally know what I really pursue in a person.

It’s really not easy finding someone who’s just made for you, logic plus experience tells us that there is no such thing as Mr. Perfect, but I believe that Mr. Right does exist..
For me, Mr. Right is someone who doesn't make sense for anyone else, who just doesnt work with others, but with you - everything fit perfectly. 

2015 was a devastating year for me, the worst heartbreak that I could possibly have.
On that moment I seriously thought that I would never be able to open my heart anymore. 
How could I open it if it’s only just some broken pieces?

But again, I was wrong. It’s always able to be opened, only by the right one. 

And the right one not just opened, he even fixed it J

This guy.. He came all in sudden.

I didn’t hear the ring of the bell or feel the butterflies flew on my stomach on the first day I met him, 

but somehow, there was a huge eagerness to know him better.

And the more days I spent with him, the better I know him, the more qualities I found.

See, I believe everyone has different criteria and priorities of what they search for in a man, 

but now as I grown up, I see lots of thing in different perspectives.

and he’s kinda has what I need..

Top of everything, kindness holds the top spot on my list — a characteristic I simply cannot live without.
And from the day one, it was his kindness that I straightly notice. 

He treats kids, waiters, friends, strangers and everyone around him gently and kindly. 

Can you imagine how he treat me? J

Days passed, turned out that he’s such a family man. 

He’s the fifth child, or the youngest we can say, and he’s the only man among his siblings. 

He treats her mother like a queen and his dad is his role model for life. He is so close with all his sisters, he knows each of his niece or nephew’s favorite toys, and he puts so much respect on his in laws.

He takes a really good care of his family, he doesn’t get shy to show his affection by hugging and kissing all member of family and he never forget to keep contact with them every single day. 

Can you imagine when he run his own family? J

Since he is such a family man, I guess it’s not hard for him to get along with mine.
He’s willing to take huge leaps to make sure my family and friends like him and see how much he cares for me.
He likes my family and i like his family, and it goes along with his family likes me and my family likes him.
I believe life is so much easier when we have each other’s family’s approval and blessings.
Everyone just gets along better, for the most part.

The closer we get, the more mesmerized I could be and I am surprised at just how much this guy notices about me, he knows all my particular particulars. 

He knows what-is-to and what-is-not to order for me at a restaurant, his gifts are thoughtful and magical, he cherishes everything about me and remember every little thing I say. 

It’s like, he listens twenty-four seven or something, 

and it’s always nice to have someone that actually listen.

For me, one of the biggest key to have a long and healthy relationship is having a great communication.

You and your partner should have the comfort to talk and share about everything that is going on in your life,
from the daily boring routines to your biggest dreams.
You need to be able to share and listen, and it should be balanced between the two of you. 

With him, I never run out of words. 

He pays a strong level of interest to my goals and dreams, he even always want to know how my day was. 

He whole-heartedly listen when I discuss something about my life and never make me feel like I’m boring him. 

I am, too, comfortable telling him everything because he makes me believe that he has my best interest at heart, and will always support me throughout my endeavors, and he never judge what I’ve done, because all I am now is a person he falls in love with.

Finding the one means searching for a partner to annoy for the rest of your life, 

but remember, he will annoy you too! 

See, nobody’s perfect, we were all made from a complex series of flaws. 

And this is one of the most important thing we should take a look from someone’s character, his flaws. 

See the way he gets angry, the way he gets jealous, the way he handle problems between you two. See him in his worst day. We can’t expect him to change, trust me, his bad habit will only get worse years by years.. 

you can’t change him, but you can choose carefully what kind of problems you want to face every single day. 

In my case, I have seen him on his worst, but he still treated me the best.

For a very short period, there are many things I adore from him. 

His work ethics, his vision about the future, his huge achievements in such young age, his big love for the family and many more things that I can’t mention one by one here. 

And I always knew that I need a person to admire.

I don’t know how it works but he makes me want to be a better person. 

He makes me want to get up early or learn to cook, he makes me check off everything on my bucket list, and conquer all of my bad habits. He’s overhauled things I thought I knew and wanted, and opened my eyes to a whole new (and better) world that I never knew existed. 

He doesn’t validate my existence, he brightens it. He lets me be me, and he loves every bit of that individuality.

He encourages me in my endeavors and celebrate my success, and I genuinely happy to do the same to him. We’re not competing each other on proving who can do better or proving who’s right or wrong. 

We make such a great team, and we seem to shine in each other’s company.

It must be fun to have life partner that has lots of thing in common,
from favorite hobbies to the same food that we hate. 

But trust me, it’s so hard to find that kind of person, in fact, we often meet a totally different character. 

And it’s totally okay darling.. 

I love seafood and he craves for meat, I never understand men who adores K-Pop and he turned out to be one (padahal pas pertama kenal ngakunya ga sukaaaa), I’m totally not a morning person and he starts his work at 7 at his office, we may well have some interests or hobbles that differ, but when it comes to the big things, we agree 100%. While we may not agree on every little thing, we’re on the same page where it matters. 

We have the same idea of how a relationship should be, what kind of marriage we would like to jump in, how to raise kids, and other long-term life decisions.

Our overall goals, ambitions, virtues and values match.

I do believe that the right one will never leave you wonder whether he loves you or not, 

the right one will never leave you hanging with “where this is going on” – kinda question,
because men basically like hunters, they always go hard for what they want. 

And for me, this is the best criteria He has, He always make me feel wanted. 

Through all his small gestures give such a big impact for me. He never leave my texts unanswered, he posts my picture in his social media, he always make time for me even in his busiest days, he takes me to his inner circle, he calls just to say he miss me, and even in my ugliest days – he never stop staring at me and say “I always admire your beauty”. 

He doesn’t make promises, he takes real actions. 

He owns up to our relationship, he shows the world that he is proud to have me. 

He makes me feel loved, secure, and treasured.

And yeah, from all those criteria above, i think my journey has come to its end when I met him, Emyr Giovanni, my own kind of mr. right.

Bali, 2016